Complementary Psychotherapy
Depending on your situation, you might experience a combination of psychotherapeutic techniques, such as CBT (Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy), Counselling, Spiritual Counselling, the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Counselling, Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP), Visualisation, guided meditation and others.
Below are some of the therapies I use.
The Grief Recovery Method (GRM)
Does your heart feel broken?
Have you lost a loved one through death or separation that left you devastated, hurting or stuck?
Or have you suffered one or more other losses?
There are over 40+ life losses that can leave us feeling bereft
Among them are:
- Physical or mental health
- Identity
- Infertility
- Miscarriage
- A Pet
- Career
- Retirement
- Empty nest
- Finances
- Faith
- Faith in yourself
- Breakup
- estrangement
- Safety
- An abusive or absent parent
- Relocation
- Addiction
- Or anything else that was of much value to you and losing it still hurts
The Grief Recovery Method teaches how to move beyond the pain caused by grief
The Method is unique in that it applies to any loss. In addition, it is an evidence-based grief programme with a proven track record.
It is a powerful, dynamic, sensible and accessible program for anyone willing to take the necessary actions to help themselves.
How does the Grief Recovery Method work?
The Grief Recovery Method is a programme of guided self-help for those who have experienced losses in their life due to the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, the loss of health, career, identity or one of over 40 significant life events that result in feelings of grief. It is a complete training course taught over 7 sessions where you will learn how to understand any loss and let go of the pain associated with the loss.
How is GRM different?
The method is structured as a series of small steps in a particular order and within proven conditions, facilitating the understanding and completion of all unresolved business related to the loss.
Gematria & Numerology
Often, we describe our first impression about a person we had just met by saying something like: “there was a good/bad ‘vibe’ about them”, or “it just felt comfortable or uncomfortable to be around them.” However, we usually don’t know why some people make us feel good and comfortable and others quite the opposite. What we sense is the vibration of the other person and how it resonates with ours. The vibrational ‘sensor’ that is most accessible to us is our body. It tenses when ‘the other person’s vibe is disharmonious to ours and relaxes when we resonate harmoniously.
Everything in the universe vibrates. Tesla said: “If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.” We are part of this vibrating sea of constantly moving and changing energy, each having a unique frequency and playing a role in this harmonious interplay of all. We influence and are being affected by this interaction. The universe’s vibration at the time of our birth has the strongest impact on our vibration, expressing itself through our personality. Thousands of years ago, Pythagoras and other philosophers and mystics understood how to decipher a person’s vibration. They translated names and dates of birth into numbers, each carrying a particular vibrational signature, arranging them in such a way that showed each vibration’s interactions and influences.
This ancient system gifted us the ability to understand the human personality. Numerologists can identify persons’ traits, hearts’ desires and aspirations (often called ‘purpose’), talents and vices, coping and self-sabotaging mechanisms, best and worst ways of expression, areas of strength and improvement. They can decode lessons people brought for humanity and those they came to learn, best ways to express their talents through vocations and hobbies, best and most harmful vibrational matches with others, best resonating times for different activities and many more. They can also predict the shadow expressions of every vibration making up a person and possible ways to overcome them.
I integrated numerological analysis into my work a few years ago and have never looked back. My initial consultation includes the numerological analysis of the person and, often, their closest environment – parents, partners, children, friends, depending on our focus and issue to hand. It’s a powerful therapy. When people gain a deeper insight into themselves and others and the dynamic with their close ones, the relief brought about by the realisation is profound so that most people fundamentally change their lives.
Such transformation is possible when the information resonates with people’s inner knowing. And it usually does. Typically, the numerological analysis confirms what the person has felt and known but was unsure, confused, often influenced by others’ views of themselves. As we unravel the vibrational make of my clients, they learn how to ‘hear’ their inner voice by listening to their body’s reactions to information. They learn to recognise when they resonate with information, their own thoughts and others and when they don’t. It’s a tool that serves them for a lifetime, safeguarding a smooth and happier life experience with fewer mistakes and diversions.
How do Gematria and Numerology work?
Numerology considers each number within your date of birth and the person’s name, and their harmony. It is the vibrational code of the person. This code is similar to a computer program (set numbers) mixed with the potential for growth (missing numbers and zeroes). It expresses the Soul’s ‘manifestation’ through physical expression or personality. It defines who we are in our entirety, with all our strengths and weaknesses, talents and lessons, aspirations and drives, and even how we look in this particular incarnation.
Similar to the DNA of our body, this code is set, yet, at the same time, it always remains flexible. We know that various environmental and internal influences can switch our genes on and off. The same is true for the Soul’s code, e.g., societal programming and conscious self-development can equally change it for better or worse. It is pre-set at birth (way before, actually), yet it contains the vast potential for change. Indeed, we incarnate here to explore this potential and to grow.
The therapeutic effect of Gematria and Numerology
The numerological analysis is therapeutic and transformational in its nature. When you see your chart and it is explained to you, suddenly, so many things become obvious. You become able to answer many important questions:
- Why do I do things I do?
- Why do I do the things I do the way I do them?
- Why do I experience particular people and events in my life?
- Why do some events keep repeating in my life?
- Why am I struggling in my job or profession?
- Why am I constantly unhappy in my relationships and in general?
- Why do I feel uncomfortable within myself?
- Why do I feel unfulfilled, feeling that there is much more to me and life?
- And many, many other important questions.
You suddenly become aware of your uniqueness, and it becomes your first step towards self-acceptance.
We all know too well that love starts with the acceptance of the Self. As your inner conflict disappears, giving way to your inner strength, you will start feeling love and compassion towards yourself and others. From this place of self-awareness, it is much easier to start the journey of growth and self-improvement towards inner harmony and balance, making your experience on this planet more exciting, pleasant, and meaningful.
Nero-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
What is NLP?
NLP is a practical approach based on the understanding of our thought processes and their impact on our behaviours. Simply put, it is about why and how we do the things we do and how to change our thinking in order to do things better or in a more constructive way.
Theoretically, NLP is about how our nervous system (‘Neuro’) processes information we receive through our five physical senses: seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, touching. It is about communication systems (‘Linguistic’): pictures, sounds, smell, taste, feelings and self-talk, which we use to make sense of our experiences. And it is about the way we are programmed to respond to them.
NLP studies and models excellence in different areas of human experiences, such as sports and business performance, education and others. The basic idea of modelling is that if one can do it, then everyone can do it; one just has to figure out the most effective way of replicating the experience for the individual. And so, it is about identifying concepts (excellence and desired behaviours) and turning them into effective processes which can then be replicated by others.
NLP doesn’t ask why a particular behaviour is being exhibited, but rather how this behaviour is sustained and can be changed. It’s about what is going on in each person’s mind and in the present moment that makes them display the behaviour. The practitioner is then able to tap into the extensive range of NLP techniques to match each individual issue.
Is NLP right for you?
If you experience unwanted habits, addictive and compulsive behaviours, fear, phobias, panic, anger, depression, shame, frustration, traumatic memories, and other reactions, then NLP may be a treatment for you.
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)
What is the Emotional Freedom Technique?
The Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is a form of emotional acupressure, based on the Chinese meridian system used in acupuncture. It is a blend of acupuncture and Mind-Body Medicine. The focus is on treating both physical and emotional ailments by ‘tuning in’ to specific issues (e.g., traumatic events, addictions, pain, allergies, etc.) while gently tapping with fingertips on certain acupuncture points.
The technique is based on the notion that it is not negative memories that cause negative emotions to occur, but it is the disruption in the body’s energy flow that leads to the occurrence of negative emotions. This concept is based on the fact that the human body is electrical (or energy) in nature. When energy flows correctly, our bodies function properly; when it is disrupted, our abilities get impaired, and when energy flows stop…we die.
Scientific research proves that our body contains 1,000 billion neurons. These transmit information within the body via electrical impulses. We feel pain instantly because it is electrically passed on along the nerves to our brain. There, the electrical activity of neurons can be easily recorded by Electroencephalography (EEG). Similarly, we can check for problems with the electrical activity of our heart with an electrocardiogram (EKG or ECG). So, there is no doubt that the state of our electrical systems is vital to our physical health.
This concept is also reflected in the 5,000-year-old Chinese system of energy circuits called meridians. These are ‘channels’ running through the whole body, distributing energy (qi or chi) around it. This concept has become the basis for modern-day acupuncture, acupressure and many other healing techniques, including EFT, whose main purpose is to restore health by ‘repairing’ the energy flow within the body.
What does EFT involve?
In simple terms, EFT works through repeated, rhythmical tapping of key meridian points. This ‘tapping’ creates a resonant vibration along the energy meridian which, literally, shakes loose any energy blockages. It is these blockages that are stopping the flow of energy and causing the pain you are experiencing.
It is important to explain that the physical tapping of these key points can be, and often is, uncomfortable. This is most commonly noticed when tapping the ‘underarm’ point. I would ask that you tell me immediately should you experience any discomfort during our session.
What can be treated with EFT?
The Emotional Freedom Technique is simple, easily learnt and effective. Almost anyone can use EFT successfully. There is a huge collection of scientific studies validating EFT’s effectiveness. Their findings have been so profound that prestigious institutions such as Harvard, Stanford, and many other universities, hospitals and clinics have chosen to use and/or study them. Therapists worldwide report 80%-95% success rates for many conditions:
Dr Dawson Church, PhD, founder of the National Institute for Integrative Healthcare, published a review of more than 40 different EFT studies evaluating the effectiveness of the method. In his paper, he cites studies that demonstrate the method’s effectiveness for a broad variety of issues, including:
- Phobias
- Physical Pain
- Emotional Pain
- Weight Loss and Food Cravings
- Athletic Performance Enhancement
- Academic Performance Enhancement
- Fatigue
- Overcoming Limiting Beliefs
- Anger Management
Is it any surprise that even mainstream medicine is accepting EFT? In the PTSD study, for example, the allopathic medicine solution (drugs) was considered no better than a placebo. If you really want to find out more about how EFT can help overcome PTSD in particular, then the documentary entitled Operation: Emotional Freedom, directed by Eric Huurre, tracks veterans and their families who have gone through intensive therapy using EFT.
Matrix Re-imprinting
What is Matrix Re-Imprinting?
Matrix Re-imprinting is a technique developed and taught by Karl Dawson that takes the Emotional Freedom Technique (E.F.T.) one step further, making the combination even more effective. It is a method used to clear adverse feelings, negative learnings and painful past events, using EFT combined with other techniques.
How does the Matrix Re-imprinting work?
Using the guided meditation approach, you are led back to a past traumatic memory. Using visualisation, you are led to clear the negative learnings by assisting the younger self through the negative event in a new positive way. As a result, you change the foundations of your reactions to the world. This leads to a more positive present.
The “re-imprinting” or rewriting process changes the mind’s, body’s, and spirit’s reference pictures to create a more positive perception of the past traumatic event, resulting in less burdened and draining memories and a happier, more relaxed, and healthier YOU!
Guided Meditation and Visualisation
Guided meditation is simply “meditation with the help of a guide.” It is one of the easiest ways to enter into a state of deep relaxation, inner stillness, and mindfulness. And it is one of the most powerful ways to eliminate stress and bring about positive personal changes. Gently easing you into a state of blissfully deep relaxation, guided meditation leads you to better clarity of the mind, while regulating your heartbeat, blood pressure, metabolism and many other bodily functions.
How does Guided Meditation work?
You will sit comfortably or lie down while listening to deeply relaxing music and my voice leading you through a series of relaxing visualizations. As you gradually relax and become more and more still, stress fades away, and your mind becomes calmer and clearer.
While you are in this deeply relaxed state of mind, your subconscious is open to positive suggestions, and I will use this time to take you on an inner journey that is designed to improve one or more aspects of your life. For example, a guided meditation might be tailored to personal empowerment and positive thinking. Another might focus on emotional healing or spiritual development. You might be taken on a guided journey to unleash your full potential, or you may choose to go on a guided meditation journey simply for the sheer pleasure of experiencing profoundly deep relaxation.
As you can now see, guided meditation can be an experience that is not only relaxing but one that enhances your sense of self transforms your perspective in positive ways and inspires you to live your life to the fullest.
It’s an effortless and very enjoyable experience that results in deep relaxation, elimination of stress and a heightened appreciation of life.
At the conclusion of your guided meditation, I will gradually bring you back to a state of normal awareness, leaving you feeling refreshed, rejuvenated and relaxed.
Benefits of Guided Meditation
Guided meditations utilize the power of your imagination and the power of visualisation to affect positive personal changes. In this regard, guided meditations are even more powerful than traditional, passive meditation techniques.
Guided Meditation also helps to achieve:
- Improved clarity in life
- Spiritual development
- The sense of elation, freedom and expanded awareness
- Emotional and physical healing
- Enhanced creativity
- Profoundly deep relaxation
- Increased confidence and personal empowerment
- The opening of the heart and healing of relationships
- Reduced negativity or self-defeating behaviours such as anger and low self-esteem
- Improved performance in work or sports
- Resolving of psychological issues
A well designed guided meditation that includes positive suggestions and positive visualizations will cause you to have an inner experience of the changes you are seeking to realize in your outer life. It will also make use of symbolic imagery, so as to connect with the deeper, more abstract levels of your mind in an effort to encourage profound healing and personal development breakthroughs.
Life Coaching
What is Life Coaching?
Life Coaching is a different process from consulting, mentoring, advice, therapy, or counselling. It addresses specific personal projects, business successes, general conditions and transitions in the client’s personal life, relationships or profession by examining what is going on right now, discovering what your obstacles or challenges might be, and choosing a course of action to make your life be what you want it to be.
Your role in the process
Life Coaching is a designed alliance between your coach and you where the coaching relationship continually gives all the power back to you. I believe that you know the answers to every question or challenge you may have in your life, even if those answers appear to be obscured, concealed or hidden inside.
My skills are about knowing the right questions to ask and having the right tools and techniques to empower you to find those answers within yourself.
You, are the only expert in your entire life who truly knows who you are and what you need. You are the only expert who can recognize what is best for you. As your coach, I will help you discover what your own personal “best” might be.
Every day we make choices to do or not do many things. These choices may range from profound to trivial and each one has an effect that makes our lives more fulfilling or less fulfilling, more balanced or less balanced, that make our process of living more effective or less effective. Life coaching helps you learn how to make choices that create an effective, balanced and fulfilling life.
I help you connect your head and your heart in a way that transforms your passion for your dreams into action for your life.
Possible focus-subjects
There is no limit to the subject of our focus together. Examples are:
- Confidence, Self Worth & Self Esteem
- Loving Relationships that Work – partners, children, relatives, friends, and others
- Career Change – Creating or Choosing Workplaces that Work
- The Mastery of Balance – Juggling a Life
- Self Care – Getting Your Own Needs Met
- Living Your Purpose
- Hot Buttons – Managing Anger, Upsets, Frustration and Stress
- Managing Grief, Loss, Sadness and Change
- Connection Parenting
- Self & Identity – Surviving the Oppressive Over-Culture
- Artists – Creativity & Art
- Businesspeople – Owners and Managers of Established Businesses and Business Starters
- Food, Nutrition, & Optimal Health
- Education
- Life Purpose and Talents
- Natural Living
- Self-acceptance
- Managing Health Issues